As we’ve suggested, before you go and ask the love of your life to become Mrs. Whatever-Your-Last-Name-Is, you need to be prepared. Below is a general checklist detailing the “Dos” of the ideal proposal.
“Will you marry me?” …These are just four little words, but they’re four of the most important words you will say in your lifetime (second only to “You’re right” and “I’m sorry,” of course). Not to pack on the pressure, but this moment is a big deal and the last thing you want is for it to be marred forever because you got down on one knee, blacked out for a second, then mumbled: “Mill you warry me?” So…you gotta practice! It might feel silly, but practice in the mirror. You might even try scripting out what you want to say so you end up with a story you don’t mind retelling a thousand times.
Do Find the Right Engagement Ring
If you’re asking a woman to slip on a ring that symbolizes a lifetime commitment, then you have to make sure the ring is something she wants to wear for a lifetime. Styles do change, so this is not to say she will actually wear that exact ring – just as it is – for the rest of her life, but you should at least give that possibility a fighting chance. That being said, allow for the possibility that you might miss the mark – no one can read her mind, after all. Make sure your jeweler has a guaranteed return policy like Gemesis’ 60-Day Guaranteed Return Policy and if you suspect she’s only 80 percent thrilled, suggest that she exchange it for something that bumps that percentage up the extra 20.
Do Surprise Her
Most women appreciate an unexpected proposal, so even if the two of you have discussed getting married, try to make the proposal itself a surprise. Find a moment when she’s least expecting it.
Do Take a Knee
It’s no longer the 19th century, and no, you’re not obligated to do it, but it is a tradition in Western culture, and a lot of women perceive the gesture as endearing and romantic. Plus, the second you get down on one knee, she will instantly know what you’re doing and this will build the thrill of excitement and anticipation as you prepare to pull out the ring box and say the four little words (that you have rehearsed – remember?).
Do Tell Her Why You Want to Marry Her
While the words “Will you marry me?” clearly imply that you think the sun rises and sets with this woman, you should still preface it with an intimate little spiel that personalizes the moment for both of you. Tell her what marriage means to you, tell her what your vision of the future is for the two of you, and tell her why she’s the one you want to spend your life with forever .